Things We Wish We Knew When We Were 19 + a year...
It's the accumulation of many small decisions over time, more so than the few big ones, that chart the paths you take in life.
Be grateful for every thing no matter how inconsequential it may seem. Being grateful attracts more things into your life for which to be grateful.
There is a difference between being tenacious and swimming upstream. Learn to distinguish between the two for one leads to success and the other to frustration.
Work daily on your relationship with God, even if it's just a simple "good morning" and "good night", for it will provide you with a level of peace, security and contentment that no person can give you.
You still get a great tan wearing an SPF 30 and doing so will save you a fortune at the dermatologist later in life.
Whether it's a hairdresser, manicurist, trainer or masseuse, never hesitate to voice your requests, concerns or discomfort. YOU know what's best for you, not them. Also, they are not your therapist so expect that anything you divulge will be repeated.
Be curious about the habits of highly evolved and successful people and apply them to your life.
Yoga is good.
Exercise your physical talents as often as possible cuz the day you realize you can no longer do that gainer off the diving board you will experience a sense of loss that's like a death.
The face, neck, and back of hands are the first places a woman shows signs of aging so take particular care.
Spend time with your grandparents and ask lots of questions because when you get older you will develop an insatiable curiosity about your heritage.
There really is such a thing as karma. You will get back exactly what you put out.
Incorporate breast self exams into your shower routine. Just like shaving and deep conditioning it should become a biweekly habit.
Your family loves you and cares more deeply about you than anyone and always has your best interest at heart.
Trust your instincts for they are an invaluable tool. If something doesn't feel right, it usually isn't.
Excessive drinking does lead to terrible decisions and consequences. You'll will also come to appreciate that the first cocktail is always the best. The ones that follow are just chasing a ghost.
Outward appearances mean nothing if you are not grounded and confident. It is never enough just to be a pretty girl.
No boy is worth pushing your values and instincts aside for.
Although 'tis always nice to give people room to grow, most personalities are set by first grade. Adjust your expectations accordingly and you will save yourself a world of hurt and disappointment.
Your grades and study habits will shape the rest of your life and provide you the best opportunity for a life of independence and success.
And, the adults were right; everything in moderation is best, time does heal all wounds and, this too did pass...
And, in honor of another year, may I add;
"The woman who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been."
Kindness of the bff Kimba for collaborating with me on this post. Of course, her contributions are easily recognizable as the more eloquent words of wisdom. The ones with the bitter, hippie bent belong to yours truly...XXOO