09 August, 2011

Things We Wish We Knew When We Were 19 Remix

In honor of Hilly's day late and a dollar short birthday, I thought I'd rerun last year's dedicated post with some slight remixing. Even I can use the occasional reminding...

Happy 20th Birthday Hilbils!!! The novelty of your pretty Sheridan French Neve dress present may dim. But, hopefully the following tidbits of wisdom cobbled together by the bff Kimba and I, will last a lifetime...

Things We Wish We Knew When We Were 19 + a year...

It's the accumulation of many small decisions over time, more so than the few big ones, that chart the paths you take in life.

Be grateful for every thing no matter how inconsequential it may seem. Being grateful attracts more things into your life for which to be grateful.

There is a difference between being tenacious and swimming upstream. Learn to distinguish between the two for one leads to success and the other to frustration.

Work daily on your relationship with God, even if it's just a simple "good morning" and "good night", for it will provide you with a level of peace, security and contentment that no person can give you.

You still get a great tan wearing an SPF 30 and doing so will save you a fortune at the dermatologist later in life.

Whether it's a hairdresser, manicurist, trainer or masseuse, never hesitate to voice your requests, concerns or discomfort. YOU know what's best for you, not them. Also, they are not your therapist so expect that anything you divulge will be repeated.

Be curious about the habits of highly evolved and successful people and apply them to your life.

Yoga is good.

Exercise your physical talents as often as possible cuz the day you realize you can no longer do that gainer off the diving board you will experience a sense of loss that's like a death.

The face, neck, and back of hands are the first places a woman shows signs of aging so take particular care.

Spend time with your grandparents and ask lots of questions because when you get older you will develop an insatiable curiosity about your heritage.

There really is such a thing as karma. You will get back exactly what you put out.

Incorporate breast self exams into your shower routine. Just like shaving and deep conditioning it should become a biweekly habit.

Your family loves you and cares more deeply about you than anyone and always has your best interest at heart.

Trust your instincts for they are an invaluable tool. If something doesn't feel right, it usually isn't.

Excessive drinking does lead to terrible decisions and consequences. You'll will also come to appreciate that the first cocktail is always the best. The ones that follow are just chasing a ghost.

Outward appearances mean nothing if you are not grounded and confident. It is never enough just to be a pretty girl.

No boy is worth pushing your values and instincts aside for.

Although 'tis always nice to give people room to grow, most personalities are set by first grade. Adjust your expectations accordingly and you will save yourself a world of hurt and disappointment.

Your grades and study habits will shape the rest of your life and provide you the best opportunity for a life of independence and success.

And, the adults were right; everything in moderation is best, time does heal all wounds and, this too did pass...

And, in honor of another year, may I add;

"The woman who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been."

-Albert Einstein (via Awelltraveledwoman)

Kindness of the bff Kimba for collaborating with me on this post. Of course, her contributions are easily recognizable as the more eloquent words of wisdom. The ones with the bitter, hippie bent belong to yours truly...XXOO


  1. I remember this from last year! In fact, I printed it out and gave a copy to my daughter and after tweaking it a little gave a copy to my son as well. Everyone should be so lucky to have an aunt like you, Allie. And everyone should be so lucky to have a bff like Kimba.

  2. Here's another one:

    Always have a stash of your own money tucked away for rainy days.

  3. Excellent advice (and I'm completely jealous of that Sheridan French dress...)


  4. Great advice for any age. What a special birthday gift (though I'd take the dress too!).

  5. Thanks for sharing...so true!

  6. I remember this from last year as well and it can never be repeated enouogh! I will share this with my 19 year old daughter :)

  7. All good stuff....even from a man's perspective

  8. Well, you certainly covered all the bases beautifully. Hope you don't mind that I am saving this one. You look beautiful in that dress but don't think it would fit me but a couple of the bracelets would do just fine!!!!


  9. Great advice! I would only add--as I recently told my 19 year old son--if you have to ask if something is wrong (as in unethical), then you already know that it is.

  10. Great gift for your beautiful niece. I see she has joie de vive like her aunt. Happiness always to Hilbils.

  11. Nice one! Thanks for sharing.

    Cassy from Guitar Made Easy